How Parents Can Help Prevent Bullying In The Classroom

‘No parent ever wants to find out that their child has been accused of bullying another student.’ Monica Payne from kidsinthehouse.com shares what you can do if it happens and how parents and schools can work together.

No parent ever wants to find out that their child has been accused of bullying another student. The information can often be hard to believe; we like to think that we’ve raised our children better than this, and that they would never partake in the bullying of another student. However, instances do happen, and the parents of a child who has bullied a classmate should in some way strive to help their child improve their overall behaviour. Here are just a few ways parents can help their children correct their behaviour following bullying, or prevent bullying behaviours altogether through prevention.

Understand That No Child Is Perfect

While every parent does their best to raise their children with all the best morals and values, no human being is perfect, and that’s true of children as well. Many children might have the best of intentions, but we all make mistakes, and sometimes these mistakes can result in other people (including classmates and peers) getting hurt. Remember also that this isn’t necessarily a reflection on you as a “bad parent;” there are many reasons children may exhibit bullying behaviours in the classroom, and not all of them are the fault of so-called “poor parenting.”

Learn About The Situation

It may be tempting to jump to conclusions as soon as you receive a call from your child’s teacher or principal, but do your best to hold off on making judgement calls right away. There may be information you’re missing; plenty of children find themselves in trouble for bullying when in fact, they were intervening on the behalf of another kid being bullied. Many schools have a policy of “keep your hands to yourself,” which can make it difficult to determine how to proceed when someone stands up for themselves. Take the time to learn about the situation as much as you can before you draw any conclusions.

Make Time To Talk With Your Child

You might not necessarily know what to do right away when you find out your child has been involved in bullying. Many common discipline techniques tend to be used, from grounding to time-outs and more, however, one of the most effective long-term options available to you is simply talking them through it. Sitting down with your child and talking with them can help you find out more about what their thought process was at the time, and can help them realise what they should do differently next time to handle the situation.

Don’t Be Dismissive

Most importantly, when your child is accused of bullying, don’t dismiss the situation at the very start. No parent wants to think that their child is capable of doing harm to a peer or classmate, but ignoring the situation isn’t going to help anyone involved. With some effort from both you and your child, you can work together to understand what occurred and how behaviours need to change to deal with things more appropriately next time. This can be a significant learning experience for both you and your child, so don’t overlook this opportunity. By intervening, you can help avoid bullying in the classroom both now and later on in your child’s educational experience.

The author

Monica Payne

Monica is an in-house writer at kidsinthehouse.com. She enjoys writing on a wide variety of parenting related topics, including child development, family and relationships. Her professional experience includes teaching preschool through eighth grade as a Special Education teacher, Reading teacher, and an Elementary Education teacher. Her philosophy of teaching involves the use of a responsive teaching model. She believes a teacher’s role is to create an environment that will facilitate the learning process. Building children’s self-esteem through positive reinforcement makes them better learners. Each child has a unique learning style that a teacher must find and develop to full potential.

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